How not to count calories and other things that will inevitably lead to doom...

This week it has been overwhelmingly apparant that the gaps in my knowledge are vast.  Last night I blew a fuse upstairs when I turned the bathroom light on and it popped, and I was suddenly plunged into darkness.  I was aghast, not really sure what to do, and debated just going back downstairs to finish watching the programme I had on the laptop, ignoring the issue all together.  Then I remembered that I need electricity to use the shower, and that, if I didn't have a shower, I would wind up rocking up to work the next day smelling of...well, smelling!

Thing is, when I was looking at houses before moving back up to Durham, I'd remembered having a conversation with the landlord's son whilst we stood upstairs on the landing.  He'd said something like "Oh, and the fuse box is right there, so you know if one goes you can just sort it straight out, that sometimes happens..." or something akin to this.  He'd pointed to the wall and I'd seen a plastic box and then above it, something else box-like.  I surveyed them both for a while, trying to look like I knew what he was talking about.  Afterwards, my boyfriend informed me that I'd been looking at the wrong thing.  I didn't question this because I had no idea which of the two things I was supposed to be looking at.  Anyway, long story short, now that I've been living here nearly a year, I'm quite aware that the "something else box-like" is in fact an electricity meter.  This means, by default, the plastic box below is the fuse box.

Right okay, but what is a fuse box?  This is the moment in a film when I have to go down to the basement with a torch, and there is a leak in the ceiling, and a rat-tat-tat-ing on the window whilst I'm trying to do something in a fuse box, but what?  What am I trying to do?  Of course I know now, because I had to ask my boyfriend, evidently, but.... that's a pretty ridiculous situation.  For a 25 year old to not know what to do when you blow a fuse.

However, I have discovered something even more ridiculous:  I'm 25 and I have never changed a lightbulb before.

This only became apparent once the power was back on, and I realised the bathroom light wouldn't switch on, and then I remembered the 'pop' which I think was the bulb going.  Somehow, now, I have to change the light bulb, and when I looked back to find my knowledge base to work from, I realised I didn't have any such experience.  And, honestly, I'm a little scared.  The light bulb has one of those weird, screw on shades over it, which I assume is also a natural habitat for a small family of spiders.

Still, although I've yet to tackle the light bulb situation, at least I no longer get 'Belfast' confused with 'Berlin', or think 'Seville' is an old people's home down south somewhere, or think the Cold War is called the Cold War because it involved Russia, and Russia can get really cold...

The gaps in my knowledge may be vast, but they are also ever decreasing.  And that's why any advice book I write will be better off telling people how not to do things, or how to avoid the everyday chore or problem.  Hence the title of this post, which may, one day, become a bestseller.

Maybe.

Room 101

Today I wish to discuss my pet hate, the one thing that tops my list labelled 'For Room 101'.  And it is all in the way you sign off your e-mails.  Consider this:

Dear Sir/Madam,

I am just writing to commend you on your excellent customer service.  The phone was answered in seconds, there was no automated machine asking me to press numbers on my phone, followed by the hash key, and there was no annoying hold music. 

When I outlined my problem to the member of staff who answered the phone, not only was my problem resolved without a fuss, but I received a complimentary free service for taking the trouble to phone you.

5 gold star standard of service, a very well done to you!

Best wishes,

J. Poole

Now take the same e-mail, signed off slightly differently...

Dear Sir/Madam,

I am just writing to commend you on your excellent customer service.  The phone was answered in seconds, there was no automated machine asking me to press numbers on my phone, followed by the hash key, and there was no annoying hold music. 

When I outlined my problem to the member of staff who answered the phone, not only was my problem resolved without a fuss, but I received a complimentary free service for taking the trouble to phone you.

5 gold star standard of service, a very well done to you!

Regards,

J. Poole


Regards?   Regards???  You just told me our customer service rating was 5 gold stars?  And now you offer me a simply 'regard'?  What is wrong with you?

When I see an e-mail signed off 'regards' I get a sick feeling in the bottom of my stomach, and start to retrace all my encounters with said person to see if I can find out why I deserve such an atrocity. 

The problem is that the word has a dual meaning, and my brain never thinks of it the right way.  You might have a high regard for someone, you might want to pass on your regards to someone, that's all good and fine.  But when you sign off 'regards' suddenly I don't think you're sending me warmest wishes.  Instead I think that you're merely looking at me.  I start thinking about the meaning  'a steady or significant look' (as defined by Oxford) and that could be anything from a stare to a downright hackey!  Since no-one tends to use it so positively anymore in conversation, when used in an e-mail I can think of it only in this negative context.  And the very nature of the word in its harsh-ness (re-Gards.  G-G-G) seems so far removed from anything polite.  I could very well use the sentence 'She regarded him with disgust'  which suddenly makes the 'regards' not seem so pleasant.

Okay, I think I've made my point.  I don't like it. 

And don't even get me started on 'kind regards'.

Best wishes,

Frankie

Prologue

For as long as I could remember, it had been like this. I'm sat in my room, waiting for my alarm clock to go off. It's always the same. I have the nightmare every night. The explosions, the shouting, people screaming, crying, angry, and then a really bright, blinding light coming towards me. Then I wake up, at pretty much the same time in the early hours, not able to go back to sleep. So, from between the hours of 5 and 6am, I just wait to hear that familiar beeping sound.

When the noise comes, it always shocks me. As if it didn't happen every day. And then I eventually reach down and hit the button to make it shut up. I do the same today too. I grab my towel and make my way to the communal bathrooms. Always pretty empty at 6.01am, I have the bathroom to myself. The shower is luke warm, but by the time I am awake it has got a little hotter. I rinse off large, frothy bubbles from my pale skin, shut the shower off and wrap the towel around myself.

By the time I make it to breakfast, the canteen is busy. I stare at the grey porridge in my bowl and try to pretend it doesn't taste like warm gravel slipping down my throat. I want to imagine it tastes nice, but I can't remember the last time I tasted something appealing. I have vague memories of one thing we used to have – before The Centre. Small beans, hot, in a sweet tomato sauce. They tasted really good on toast. I don't really remember what they were called. Memory of before The Centre isn't really encouraged in here.

I don't see anyone I know at breakfast, but it's likely they stole some fruit from the kitchens last night and are feasting on it in their rooms. I didn't go to the kitchens last night because I had a headache and wanted to get to bed early. Sometimes we have quite a lot of fun. No-one would know we're supposed to be crazy!

Well, that's what we think we're in for anyway. No-one's really sure. A bunch of reasons were given in the beginning, but those memories are beginning to slip away too. Maybe that's a symptom of a seemingly endless drag of days on end? Starting with grey porridge, ending with watery stew. Always the same. 

In the lounge everyone sits in the same seats, stands in the same spots, and plays the same games in the same order. Roy always gets the pool table first, and he takes turns with Dave for the first hour. Eventually that gets old, and they sit on the floor and try to remember what real coffee tastes like whilst the tea lady comes in with the powdered stuff. 

I usually sit on the sofa, staring at the pages of magazines. The dates on all of them have been blacked over. For all I know the people in the pictures are all be dead now. They do get changed, who knows how often. I'm not counting the days. All I know is that sometimes the stories are different. Maybe they keep re-using them? I might have read or flicked through these pages thousands of times. It's just habit now.

At some point I'm joined by Steph. Steph is some kind of sanity for me in The Centre. People rarely laugh here, but she's one person who can get a laugh or smile from anyone. She tells rude jokes. I don't know where she gets them from. She swears people keep writing them on the bathroom walls, but I've looked everywhere and can't find them.

Today she's arrived at the same time as the tea lady, so she hands me a cup of the weak, warm tea.

“Yo, so anything new?” she raises her eyebrows and looks at the magazine in my lap.

“Same as yesterday.” I note.

“It's really bad that the most exciting thing that happens to us is that we get a new magazine, or Dave finally manages to beat Roy at pool.” She smirks.

“Dave's never beaten Roy at pool.”

“I keep hoping. I've got a bet on him.” she winks. 

We don't bet with money, we bet with fruit. Steph's always lucky with the bets so she always has the most. Generally fruit is a real treat we get at weekends only.

The inner door opens and one of the security guards appear. This isn't common place, not unless there's a real commotion. Once Lisa Banks whacked Dave one in the face because she thought he'd stolen her plastic cup of tea. Security came in then. I don't think I can remember another time. 

“Jemma Right?” the guard questions, looking around the room. At the sound of my name I jump. The magazine falls from my lap. Steph stares at me, mouth open, eyes wide. I can sense other eyes on me as I get up and walk, like a robot, to the door.

“Come with me, please.” he says in a stiff voice. 

Once out the door I take nothing in but following him. He keeps looking behind at me, as though I'm going to run away. I'm too bewildered to do anything of the sort.

Eventually we arrive at a small box room which is generally used to isolate inmates during incidents like the Lisa/Dave scenario I mentioned earlier. I don't want to be in this room because it means discipline. And no fruit, even at weekends. And no chance of getting down to the kitchens tonight.

Inside the room is a small desk with a chair at either end. The security guard sits in one, and I automatically sit in the other.

“Jemma.” The guard says.

I nod, wordless.

“Don't say anything, just listen and nod, whatever I say, got it?” He demands.

I nod. I'm scared. I feel as though I'm in hot water.

“Tonight, at midnight, you're going to go down to the kitchens. There, you'll meet me. I am going to get you out. I can take more with me, I'd take you all if I could, but not now. It has to be done at another time. You know people. Tell who you can. Maybe five or six others, okay?”

I nod. I wasn't expecting this. It doesn't make sense. I don't even know what's outside. I don't remember what it's like. What if I don't like it? What if I want to come back? I probably wouldn't make it out. Why the kitchens? I had so many questions and the guard seemed to sense this.

“Quickly, ask me what you want to know. Just two questions, come on...” there was a sense of urgency. I guessed he didn't know how much time he could steal like this.

“Who are you?”

“I'm someone sent here by someone else. And any thanks you have are for him, not for me. I don't know too much about him, but I have a debt to pay him. This is how I'm paying.” he answers in a whisper.

“Do you know why I'm here?” I ask, the only other question that occurs to me at this time.

“You don't know?” he seems shocked.

I shake my head.

“After they found the felony gene, the government acted on it. I don't know if you remember the DNA tests, what with the memory erasure that goes on in here...”

“Memory erasure?” I begin.

“Yes, but there isn't time to explain it all...” the guard cuts me off, “After the test you all got taken in here. There's a number of other centres across the country, and all of you are a suspected danger to society. Prevention, it's said, is better than cure.”

“We're here because me might commit a crime in mainstream society?” I question.

“If you'll believe it.” The guard says with a large measure of scepticism.

I am stunned into silence by this revelation. The room is spinning. I don't know how I feel, and I don't know if I'm just having another nightmare. Or perhaps the guard is toying with me? It would be a cruel joke, but how easily played...

“Do you remember the time and place?” Suddenly I'm hurtling back to the here and now and realise the guard has just asked me a question.

“The kitchens, midnight.” I manage to reply.

“Tell five others. In secret.” he says, and then I am escorted back to the lounge.

***

I don't sleep. At least tonight there is no nightmare to be had, because I am simply in no state to dream. I watch the minutes as they barely move into hours. I wonder if anyone thought it odd that I didn't stay long in the kitchens after dinner? I knew I'd be back there very soon. I felt weird about the whole thing. Of course, I told Steph and Roy and Dave. Roy and Dave looked at me with some sympathy. I don't think they believed me at all. Steph was supportive, but I wonder if there isn't a part of her that thinks I've finally cracked? She assured me she'd tell two of the other girls she plays hockey with on Sundays. I wonder how they'll react.

I didn't put an alarm on, I knew I wouldn't catch a wink. Nothing alerts me to the presence of 11.55 but somehow it's there, and with my constant staring at the clock I realise within the sixty seconds that follow that it's time to get moving.

I put on my black, soft soled shoes. I doubt they'll make much noise on the landing. With a heart beating fast, adrenaline pumping, feeling anxiously sick and wondering if maybe I did make this whole thing up after all, I make my way, slowly and surely, across the landing, down the stairs and down the corridor to the kitchens. Every shadow has me jumping.

My hand on the handle of the kitchen door, I hesitate before slowly pulling it open and entering the dark room. It seems I am the first one here. Warily, I walk to the island in the centre of the room. I hear a noise behind me and sweep round, fast and on my guard. The door opens and in walks Steph and two other girls I vaguely recognise. I watch as doubt crosses their faces as they see me in the empty room.

“Hi.” Steph says, “Where are the other two?”

I shrug, “Maybe they won't come?”

Minutes pass. By now I'm doubting it too. I invented the whole thing. My imagination got the better of me. Now, I'm glad I didn't tell anyone the part about why we're supposed to be here – the felony gene – what a joke! They'd have a field day.

“Jem.” Steph whispers, “I don't think...”

And then the door opens behind her and Dave and Roy peer in.

“Come in!” I say, excited by their very presence. I can't believe they turned up. Then I remember that we don't seem to be doing any escaping and my heart sinks.

“We thought you'd be gone.” Roy says, and he doesn't seem sceptical, even though he should be.

“What's the plan?” Dave adds, in a soft voice that's barely audible.

“I'm the plan.” a voice comes from the darkness. 

We turn around and face the light thrown into the room by the open door at the opposite end of the room. A door I'd never seen until now. The silhouette of a man blocks the doorway. 

We stare at each other, not knowing what to say. Then we all share a look and blindly, trusting oh-so-easily, we follow the silhouette into the light.

The epiphany I had whilst cleaning the kitchen sink today!

Some may find it in the drink
I found it in my kitchen sink
when scum removed, something I see
my own face staring back at me

I always thought I knew that face
I'd been with her from place to place
I'd searched my soul, and knew my heart
I'd grown from that girl at the start

But after change, that came with growth
Not every change could fit the mould
the shape that some expect of me
I could not be, what I had been

I faced rejection, I was ashamed
Should I put this new girl back away?
Was I now a monster? How would I know?
For all my strength, what was to show?

I made a mask to hide behind,
a farce that I had peace of mind
I even had myself deceived,
did not see my insecurity.


But when I made my journey home
from travels that I'd made alone
and found happiness in being with friends
and another half, soul on the mend
I couldn't place the pain I felt
or why my heart was racked with guilt
and then it hit me yesterday -
I let self-doubt get in the way!

Everything I'd learned in the past
About a girl that's fit to last
who draws on strength from High Above
and strives to walk the Way of Love
had been clean swept off the floor
when hate walked through an open door
I let the devil dance on my pain
and forgot that cleansing comes from rain

Now when the dirty sink is clean
and I spy a person in that gleam
that only comes from elbow grease
(or maybe if you're using bleach)
I see this is a parody
of what this whole thing means for me...

Yes, I still know myself,
Not perfect but always gaining wealth
of the most desirable kind
by keeping Father God in mind.
And does He not grant my worth?
I'm one in kind on this whole earth
I have a value, loved by He,
why would I doubt what He taught me?

And yes, just like this shiny sink,
I might need cleaning, a lot I think!
But it's the many, many cracks in pots
that let light stream out such a lot

So I'll embrace this woman who,
in Jesus is made brand new,
and won't believe the worldly lies
that it's people who decide
the worth of each and every being;
based on what we do, or how we seem.

No, this is my epiphany,
I'm good enough, just being me.

Not about rain

Today I feel like a little light-hearted post, so if you were looking for something philisophical or deep then I believe you are looking in the wrong place!  For the readers that remain, indulge me whilst I try to get myself back from a Christmas-induced bout of writers' block which means my current book, which I've had open on my laptop for the entire day, remains untouched this month (year!...but it is only the 5th day of the year)  I'm hoping inspiriation will hit me shortly (although hopefully not literally, as I'm in no mood to sport bruises) and I'll be optimistic and say it will come just at the right time, and not whilst I'm in a meeting at work, or on the bus, or anywhere else where I might not have the equipment necessary to deal with 'creative flow' (necessary equipment for creative flow: coffee, my laptop, Kylie's Greatest Hits on repeat)


Currently I am in the mood to rabbit on about not very much in a slightly witty tone, adding brackets where I see fit to ad lib for further comedy value (do you see what I mean?) but the problem is I'm writing a book which doesn't fit that tone at all, so I'm sort of left in a situation where I'm taken over by a want to write down something, but without anything interesting to talk about.  As such, I decided to see if the Internet had any good ideas.

Ah, the Internet, such a big place for small people with ambitious dreams (i.e me)  A little bit ludicrous too.  There are a bunch of 'story generators' on there and 'blog idea creators' which randomly pluck 'interesting' subjects out of the air.  I stumbled upon the latter and was instructed to write a blog on subject of the Nintendo 64 Vs the PS1. As I have nothing to contribute to a discussion of that sort, what I have actually decided to do is make my own 'blog idea generator' which can be used as a universal tool for writers everywhere.  Or perhaps just me.  And maybe not even that.

STEP ONE: Pick the flower correspending to your month of birth from the list below:-
January: Tulip
February: Primrose
March: Rose
April: Buttercup
May: Daisy
June: Hyacinth
July: Tulip
August: Primrose
September: Rose
October: Buttercup
November: Daisy
December: Hyacinth

STEP TWO:  Add to the date of your birth the numbers as per the list below:-

(e.g. if your birthday is the 13th August then your flower is the primrose so you add 13 to 12 = 25)

Tulip: 100
Primrose: 12
Rose: 234
Buttercup: 3
Daisy: 24
Hyacinth: 89

STEP THREE: Sing the National Anthem loudly.

STEP FOUR: Step three was a trick, you can stop singing now!

STEP FIVE: Grab the book nearest to you and flick to the page number generated by step two (in the example this is page 25)

STEP SIX: The last word on the page is your topic for discussion.

Right, now I am going to follow my own advice (I'm not joshing you, I actually just made that system up now on the spot) and then we'll see what topic I get!  Ooooh the excitement.  Okay so....Hyacinth right...106...GOD SAVE OUR GRACIOUS QUEEN! Oh - hahahahahaha- trick!  And (drum roll please...) the topic for discussion is rain!

Weather.  How predictable.  I mean the topic, not the weather.  Actually the weather is pretty predictable.  There's a whole television programme about it.  What's that called again?  Oh yes, the weather forecast.  Well....I can't fault the blog idea generator as I did invent the system so I'd best get cracking with it!

It always rains when you go to the hairdressers doesn't it?  I've actually gone to the touble of buying an umbrella directly on the way to the hairdressers before, although I did have a tip off in the form of some very dark clouds in the sky.  I can deal with the rain though, as long as it's not too windy, my real problem with the hairdressers is not the post-new-hair-being-rained-on disappointment once I'm home and I see the state it's in (what was the point in ghds?) but rather the shampooing.  It's like being a sheep (do they get shampooed?  No, I think I might be thinking of shearing...) Anyway, last time I was ushered into the little shampoo section and they must have got a new system in place because, much to my horror, upon the sight of my vertically challenged nature, the hairdresser placed a booster seat (!) upon the chair I was about to sit on (I kid you not!)  If this wasn't undignifying enough I then came to the horrible realisation that, as a small person, I'd been missing out on a special form of torture reserved for the average-height hairdressee (that's a word, yes?)  Basically, when I lean back into the basin that is for hair-washing I normally feel very comfortable and actually quite enjoy having someone else partake in the arduous task of washing my hair.  But what I've found out is that at normal height (i.e if you are of an average height, or a small person sitting on a booster seat because the hairdresser made you) then leaning back into a basin is not only torture, but completley unnatural.  Suddenly the gap in the basin was touching a part of my neck which no-one should ever have to rest the whole weight of their head upon.  I thought I'd accidentally stepped into a Chinese torture room.  Whilst the hairdresser busied herself putting product in my hair and saying "I think I'll get the shampoo for sensitive skin because you have a dry scalp." (yes, thank-you very much for yet another insult...) I was trying to distract myself from the pain in my neck which endured for the entire shampooing and conditioning process by beating my thigh repeatedly with my right hand.  I imagine this made me look like some sort of demented, tribal, warrior woman, but desperate times and desperate measures and all that. 

So, can someone else, of an average height, please confirm that the basins cut into one's neck in exactly the wrong place?  Next time I go I will, of course, wear six inch heels and avoid the booster seat altogether.

Oh look, that wasn't about rain at all, was it? Oh well...

(PS if you would like to use my blog idea generator please feel free.  It's also fun to put the 'topic' as your Facebook status - although 'rain' would be a rather boring Facebook status I imagine 'Soz', 'ham' or 'FAT' would be rather fun (I just picked those words out of the book beside me)  Anyway, just use it how you see fit)

The ones that slipped away

I've been thinking about the past a lot recently.  It's come to me in dreams.  Some of them just silly little reminders of people who were once a large part of my life, others haunting images that tell the tales of past and future selves, and how they meet in the middle, or maybe not at all...

Obsession with the past is never a good thing, and I shake these things off, because it's necessary.  All the same, I feel slightly emotionally exhausted from trying to reconcile my life now with the life I was living just 12 months ago.  Am I the same person?  Do I want to be the same person?  Is it weird that the most important people in my life now are slightly different?  Should I be scared about the future, because of the change?

Sometimes I really think that Poland was all a dream.  Did I really live there?  Did I really use to get the train and the bus on my own in the dark on a Sunday night, travelling from town to town, not speaking the lingo?  Did I really have those zloty in my purse, instead of pounds?  And have that weird fish salad thing that they sold in the little shop downstairs?  It all seems like a crazy fantasy that I made up when I was bored.  Then Sue or Leanne or Ana or someone drops me a line, and I have to accept the fact that I did live with Sue and Ana, and I did work with them both along with Leanne...otherwise how else would I know them? 

Then I remember the others I met in Poland, and how I may never see any of them again, and this really deeply saddens me.  These people walked into my life, they made an impact, and then they disappeared.  And for some reason I feel everything like it's a big blow.  Maybe just because I'm in a reflective mood, maybe because I've always found it difficult to let go, or maybe because you never really realise how much you relied on a network until it's not there anymore.  I had to make a new network of friends whilst on the continent, with my family physically far away....and now even though I'm close to my family again, without the network there just feels an absence.

Maybe that also explains my utter fascination with the life of one of my friends, who, I hope with all my heart, does not class herself as a former friend or just 'somebody that I used to know'.  See, she really was someone I could talk to anytime about anything, even if I hadn't seen or spoken to her in months.  And I could always rely on her to come round with food and drink and a big smile for games and giggles at my place.  Now I see her life only through pictures on Facebook, and she even looks different.   I dreamt about her: there were two of her.  One looked like I remember her, the other looked like her in the new pictures.  Old friend introduced me to her new self, but I didn't feel the connection - it didn't really seem like her at all.  My head couldn't connect her, this persona I see on the Internet, with the person I used to know. I know it was just a dream, but I can't stop thinking about it.  Does that person still exist?  Yes, I'm sure she does, but I feel quite scared, quite alarmed, after that really scary dream, as though she has been replaced by an imposter.  (It should now be noted that directly following this encounter in my dream I went upstairs and found a panda in the bath.  I'm not really taking the meaning of that all too seriously, so perhaps I ought to take all of the dream with a pinch of salt?)

The point is, with her seeming to slip away from my life too, when I used to rely on her so much...it seems bizarre, it seems strange....and the absence is sorely felt.

Even though things in just the space of a year have changed so dramatically, it doesn't mean that things have changed for the worse.  I'm happy and I've grown.  It's remarkable that the people who now belong in my life include some people who I never thought would play the major roles that they do.  In fact, instead of focussing on the friends who I've had to leave behind, even just because of geographical barriers, I should really be focussing on the new ones, because they're just as important. 

By no stretch of the imagination could my heart ever really leave behind those friends I made in Poland, or elsewhere. Even those people who left my life by choice have left their mark and I doubt they will ever be removed.  It just makes up another part of me, teaches me important lessons and enables me to understand humanity a little more.  I've left the light on and the door open for these people, in the hope they might return.  Maybe they never will, but at least I gave them the opportunity.

In the meantime I'll just be grateful for everything I have, because I'm privelleged to know and be friends with some fantastic people!

How Edward Cullen isn't god-like and other counter arguments

Since the release of the books and films, witty analyses of Twilight and its sequels have been dominant on the Internet.  Most of the critique, or appraisal, centres around the reason for its success, how transparent it is, and the need for an explanation because, of course, how 'lame' it all is - it is as bizarre as that phase where year 11 kids started bringing their childhood lunchboxes back into school, claiming it as 'retro' or something (anyone else remember that?)

The explanation goes a little something like this: Girls like Twilight.  Girls like Twilight because of the hero, Edward Cullen, who is immortal, and loves the awkward teenager Bella unconditionally.  Edward is god-like, and as all girls are an awkward teenager inside, with a longing to be loved by an immortal being, Twilight fulfills their dreams of one day also being loved unconditonally by a god-like creature.

For me there are a million and one things wrong with this argument, but I'll just give you the 3 main issues I have with it.

1)  The first premise is that girls like Twilight.  I would like to deny this sweeping generalisation, which assumes that Twilight is liked only by girls.  And I'm pretty sure there a few women who couldn't give a flying fig what happens in Forks.  Additionally, I can name men who like Twilight.  I have heard it said, in response to this, and also in anticipation to such a response to the above argument, that any men who like Twilight are gay.  Well, firstly may I congratulate you on re-affirming a stereotype and secondly I might point out that the derrogatory way in which you use the word 'gay' is offensive.  Thanks.

2) Edward Cullen is not god-like.  I don't even know where to start with this, because there are so many reasons why, so let me just give you a taste of some of the reasons I have to counter this.  1) He's selfish - he freely admits in book 1 that he is and that he should stay away from Bella, as it is in her best interests, yet still he enters into a relationship with her 2) he attempts to kill himself in book 2, not in a self-sacrificial act for the good of man-kind - no- because he can't take living without Bella (again...selfish?) 3) he doesn't have unconditional love for everyone, just for Bella.  He actively hates some people.  Namely Jacob Black and certainly Mike Newton in book 1. 

3) If Twilight is able to fulfil the needs of those girls who long for a god-like figure to love them the way Edward loves Bella, then how do we explain all those women who love Twilight yet are believers in a religion which has a God?  If they believe in a Father-Creator, a Heavenly-Paternal being who loves them so unconditionally, or have a relationship with Him, then why would they crave this sort of re-affirmation?  I don't think they would.  However, assuming they do want some sort of secular, pop-cultural point of reference to solidify their beliefs or to re-affirm their own values, why choose a hero of a book who, at one point, abandons the awkward-teenage Bella and cuts her out of his life for months on end? 

So, why am I annoyed enough to write this post?  Well, mainly because I wanted somewhere to tell people why I like Twilight.  It has nothing to do with Edward Cullen, his stinky breath (seriously Meyer you mention his breath too much, it makes me feel a little sick!) or my identification with Bella Swan (not that I particularly see myself in her.  Rather she is way too cool and aloof compared to me as a teenager.  And she does the washing up.  A teenager who does her chores!) 

The reason I like Twilight is probably the same reason everyone else loves Twilight: the love triangle. Simple as that.

Team Jacob BTW.